Author: Dr. Michelle Durkin on 25 September 2018
I have a secret to tell you. I am in recovery. From being a workaholic. It's hard to change this pattern because sometimes I feel like my brain never stops thinking and there is just so much to do.
Can you relate?
One of the reasons I noticed this is my mother gave me a book called, "Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much." Which I abruptly stuffed into my closet and never opened. Until I found it a few months ago.
When I saw it again I thought, "Oh S#!%, she is right." I need to read this book.
So I started. One page a day.
Here is one meditation that I found particularly powerful and maybe you will too:
Our feelings of unworthiness take many forms, and one of the most obvious is self-abuse. Many women are beginning to see that their addiction to self-abuse is their most basic addiction.
It is abusive to the self to work too much. It is abusive the the self to keep so busy that we have no time to ourselves. It is abusive to the self to be so busy taking care of others that we have no awareness of our needs. It is abusive to the self to be so externally referented that we have lost a sense of self.
When we abuse ourselves, ti is inevitable that we will also abuse others. Both forms of abuse are destructive.
Although I have become inured to self-abuse, I really do not believe that it is right for me. I will try to open myself to what is right for me.
Now I would love to hear from you! Have you ever considered that thinking too much and being "busy" are actually detrimental to your Self? Leave a comment below and I'll be back next week with another edition of Doctor as Teacher Tuesday!
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5 Replies to “Do you feel like your brain never stops thinking?”
Yes I did. I was so busy looking after my family that my health took second place. It wasn’t until I could barely make it up the stairs because the soles of my feet hurt so bad that I said to myself-“enough, I have to look after myself so I can look after my family.” What a relief it was to get looked after. Why do we do this to ourselves?
Thank you for the important reminder that in life and living we always need to find the balance of living well in every aspect of our lives … faith, family, work, exercise, serving the community and others. There are many other things that encompass living well and truly enjoying the journey!
I believe that most of us, I wouldn’t use the word abuse, because life has a way of adding things to our day that we hadn’t planned, but the important thing to remember is stepping back, assessing all the responsibilities and more importantly readjusting our schedules to keep the healthy balance needed. For me, like probably most of us, this is always a challenge and a constant battle to find time for ourselves to be reflective, relaxing both mind, body and spirit so we can give our best to all the other areas of our lives that need our attention.
Being older I’ve become more aware of my worth and that I “must” make time for me so I can be my best for my family, friends and community. Learning not to feel guilty when I need to say no to someone and yes to me. Remembering that there is a fine line of living for self or others. I don’t want to be selfish, but selfless still finding that healthy balance and worth!!!!
Oh yes
The “why” is different for everyone I think.
Great comment Shawna! I initially thought the word abuse was strong as well. But maybe only when we think of it as that serious of a problem will we give ourselves permission to change and do things differently.